Sometimes we assume we are all talking about the same thing, when we really aren’t.
Look anything up in Urban Dictionary and you’ll see what I mean.
I use the question “does it serve me?” as a criteria for evaluating so many things: my thoughts, my beliefs, my decisions, my values – and I highly recommend it.
Sometimes I get pushback from my clients, because they think I mean it in a selfish way, and they just aren’t comfortable being selfish (which is a topic for another day!) They think that I am saying to be self-serving, which means having concern for one’s own welfare and interests before those of others. That’s not at all what I mean!
“Does it serve me?” = does this thought or belief or whatever thing help me to be my best self? To become more of who I want to be? To be more authentic, more aligned with my values and ethics? Does it help me accomplish what I want to accomplish? to feel the way I want and need to feel to be able to achieve my goals?
When the answer is “yes” then it is never self-serving, because being my best self means that I am bringing a better version of me to the world to love and serve and give.
And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!
Love and light,
If you’re interested in finding some peace for yourself, email me (firstname.lastname@example.org) or schedule a free mini session with me (here). A mini session is a short coaching session, where we can talk about the noise that’s holding you back and what you can do about it. What do you have to lose? Literally!0