I love Hawaii, and like many people I crave a regular visit to get my fill of the air, sea and land, of course, but also the healing love of the islands and the people. I haven’t been able to go for a couple of years and I feel it. I feel out of balance.

I feel out of balance and I notice myself being more judgmental of myself and others. I notice that my patience isn’t what it normally is. I notice that I am more self-critical than normal. I notice I feel more guilt – which is something I really really really try to avoid.

I recently found out that I had been using a word for a group of people that had been fine in the past, but now is considered to be a slur. I felt horrible, because I know that words are things, and words matter. I was angry with myself for not knowing (who knows everything) and mortified and guilty and I rushed to judge and beat myself up. Side note: I think cancel culture is a contributing factor in our rush to judgment.

But you can see that I was out of balance, right? It seems obvious to me now.

Are you familiar with the Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono? It’s a beautiful practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.

There is a traditional ritual that begins with prayer, then moves through working through the problem by hearing each other without blame, repenting, forgiving and letting go.

The practice has been adopted by many people as a way to heal our relationships and ourselves.

The steps and the prayer of Ho’oponopono are the same. I’m sorry (repent). Please forgive me (ask for forgiveness). Thank you (gratitude). I love you (love). The only requirement is that each step is heartfelt.

It took me a little too long to remember to do this, but when I did I could feel my balance returning.

If you’re familiar, I hope this is a reminder. If you aren’t, I hope it’s an introduction. It’s simple and powerful. It’s amazing to practice the prayer in song, too.

In the meantime, remember these things: You are loved. We are all loved. Let’s all be kind. And in all things – progress, not perfection!

Love and light,



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